PDF Love Respect The Love She Most Desires The Respect He Desperately Needs Emerson Eggerichs 0884149312749 Books

Product details Hardcover 324 pages Publisher Thomas Nelson; 1 edition (September 1, 2004) Language English ISBN-10 1591451876

Love Respect The Love She Most Desires The Respect He Desperately Needs Emerson Eggerichs 0884149312749 Books Reviews

• I am a counseling psychologist who specializes in clinical treatment and research of couples and marriage. I read this book out of curiosity.
  There are few books on the market that are 1) as popular as this book and 2) leave me more heartbroken due to misinformation.
  I think this book does well to highlight that love and respect are, indeed, very key aspects of relationships (for both partners, btw women also need respect, and men also need love). I completely see how some, without a critical eye of the book, are positively impacted by the message.
  
  However, the author boldly claims that connection and communication are principles that only wives are interested in (false).
  Perhaps most harrowing, the author declares proudly that his book helped a woman return to her husband, who was abusive for many years, because she learned to "keep her mouth shut" and give him some respect (this is NOT how domestic abuse should be handled). He also shares a story where he was frustrated at his wife because she was frustrated with him for not getting a proper card (basically said don't get mad at me that i got the wrong card, just deal with it and don't get mad!) Another example that seemed particularly childish to me was that the author complained that his wife insisted he pick his wet towels up after his shower...
  
  Half of the book is literally the author discussing the blessing his book is and how important love and respect are (it could be easily shortened to about 50 pages without his self-affirming stories or reviews).
  
  Please, instead of this book, read Love Sense or Created for Connection by Sue Johnson; The 7 Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman; I Hear You by Michael Sorensen...... Anything else. Really.
• I am a Christian who believes in biblical gender roles. While the author's ideas sound good on the surface and the colored glasses analogy is helpful, this book ultimately does more harm than good. There is a subtle misogyny in the author's language that weighed on me while reading. His opinions are not congruent with my understanding of my identity in Christ. The author also plays fast and loose with scripture, taking passages out of context and building his own narratives around them, neglecting the whole of biblical witness. This was very damaging to me as a new wife trying to find my footing. I finally felt validated after my father (a long-time conservative Christian) told me he saw this author speak and also thought it was a sham. For wisdom in navigating your marriage, stick to the actual Bible and healthy Christian community.
• Our church group of young couples attempted to read, but we were unable to finish it. This book is very critical of women.
• Great, awesome book. I'm in the mental health field and I appreciate this author's take on relationships and what they consider to be important. Truthfully I'm personally agnostic, but thankfully I was open enough to allow myself to read the book and incorporate those standard wants and desires from the opposite sex into a fitting role model for a true harmonious living. I can see how this information works and would encourage anyone in family counseling to pick up the book and give it a try.
• This book is totally one sided, in favor of men. Men need respect, men need sex, men need!!!!!! and all us women need is love! Really! This author seems to be selfish and looks at women as non-equals who need to just shut up and never complain I was not able to finish this book, and feel that it was a waste of my money. It is 2018! Women deserve respect.
• We just celebrated our 30th anniversary. This book and video series was the only thing that genuinely helped us. All our other marriage seminars, books, etc. focused on communication. We were communicating fairly well, just were always butting heads trying to get the other to change/not understanding why we were always butting heads when we loved each other and agreed on so many life issues. This book changed our marriage for the first time, because it helped me understand that my husband is just plain wired differently and MUST feel respect. He would get mad, but I'd have no idea why - because I was looking from a female perspective. Finally, as I changed my interactions with him, he felt respected and calmed down. He had always treated me very well, but after I changed, his feelings for me seemed to go deeper. I could go on but won't. I recommend this book and ministry to everyone I encounter.
• I have this book already but ordered it for someone else, from . This is a very good guide. Definitely something to purchase before getting married or as a wedding gift. Initially, I felt like, my husband should be reading this book when I first read it. Till this day, he has never read this book!
  
  From reading this book I noticed by making small changes in the way I communicated and reacted I began to see big time changes in my marriage. This was just one of the tools that helped me out during a rough time in my marriage and I have been married as of today for 12 years, early on, I wasn't sure how long our marriage would last.
• I'm thankful for stumbling upon this book. Living in a world that propagates feminine empowerment to extremes I didn't realize how negatively those ideas were impacting my relationship through means of disrespect. I have stepped back, observing and practicing some of the teachings in this book, and have seen a positive impact on my perspective & relationship. The only reason I didn't rate 5 stars is due to the excessive amount of personal experiences at the beginning of the book. While a few are helpful I felt it could have been reduced down & gotten to the teachings sooner.