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NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER • “A meditation on sense-making when there’s no sense to be made, on letting go when we can’t hold on, and on being unafraid even when we’re terrified.”—Lucy Kalanithi
“Belongs on the shelf alongside other terrific books about this difficult subject, like Paul Kalanithi’s When Breath Becomes Air and Atul Gawande’s Being Mortal.”—Bill Gates
NAMED ONE OF THE BEST BOOKS OF THE YEAR BY REAL SIMPLE
Kate Bowler is a professor at Duke Divinity School with a modest Christian upbringing, but she specializes in the study of the prosperity gospel, a creed that sees fortune as a blessing from God and misfortune as a mark of God’s disapproval. At thirty-five, everything in her life seems to point toward “blessing.” She is thriving in her job, married to her high school sweetheart, and loves life with her newborn son.
Then she is diagnosed with stage IV colon cancer.
The prospect of her own mortality forces Kate to realize that she has been tacitly subscribing to the prosperity gospel, living with the conviction that she can control the shape of her life with “a surge of determination.” Even as this type of Christianity celebrates the American can-do spirit, it implies that if you “can’t do” and succumb to illness or misfortune, you are a failure. Kate is very sick, and no amount of positive thinking will shrink her tumors. What does it mean to die, she wonders, in a society that insists everything happens for a reason? Kate is stripped of this certainty only to discover that without it, life is hard but beautiful in a way it never has been before.
Frank and funny, dark and wise, Kate Bowler pulls the reader deeply into her life in an account she populates affectionately with a colorful, often hilarious retinue of friends, mega-church preachers, relatives, and doctors. Everything Happens for a Reason tells her story, offering up her irreverent, hard-won observations on dying and the ways it has taught her to live.
Praise for Everything Happens for a Reason
“I fell hard and fast for Kate Bowler. Her writing is naked, elegant, and gripping—she’s like a Christian Joan Didion. I left Kate’s story feeling more present, more grateful, and a hell of a lot less alone. And what else is art for?”—Glennon Doyle, #1 New York Times bestselling author of Love Warrior and president of Together Rising
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"Kate's voice is the perfect pairing of wisdom and wit. In a world where people feel like their need to respond overrides the need to be PRESENT, we find out how to truly be there for those going through the hardest of times. Here is an opportunity to walk with someone who's been through the valley and shared her own story of how to turn good intentions into being truly helpful– sometimes by saying nothing at all."
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- Kate Bowler lost thirty pounds without trying and was wracked by stomach pain nearly daily while going about her life as a professor at her beloved alma mater with an adoring husband and very young toddler son. She saw doctor after doctor, each dismissing her concerns, until she finally refused to leave a doctor's office until he actually TRIED something. Dismissive and hostile, he wrote orders for a CT scan while assuring her all her symptoms were psychosomatic.
Then the results from the CT Scan came back and Ms. Bowler discovered she had stage four colon cancer and not much time left to live.
This book isn't so much a calm meditation on grief as it is a reflection of the way we swing wildly back and forth from rage to calm to fear to grief and back again. She is living in the ever-present of stage four cancer - now must be enough because no tomorrow can be promised to her. While currently somewhat stabilized, she has written a book that is an absolute gift to us all. It is not a pat or trite reflection on sorrows that promises a better tomorrow - it's someone willing to sit with you in the dark, because she is there too.
That Kate wrote this book is a gift not just to her family, giving them an inner vision of a very self-possessed woman's thoughts as she stares into, as she calls it, "an unbearable future" - it's a gift to all of us who have lived through grief. Whether the diagnosis was our own or for a family member - whether we mourned a loss that's already occurred or we're facing one we cannot bear to survive - this book will not tell you "everything will be okay". Instead, it will tell you, "you know, it might NOT be okay, but we'll keep living anyway and I will stand there with you."
It's beautiful, raw, wrenching, hard not to read in a single sitting. A meditation on the way we are ALL adherents of the Prosperity Gospel when the chips are down.. we all want to bargain or find some thing we can do to "deserve" and receive healing. Sometimes, healing is not in the cards. Kate is there to walk with us through making sense of the world when everything is utterly senseless - on parenting when you're not sure how much longer you'll get to BE a parent - on loving someone who is going to lose you so much that you find yourself telling everyone to be sure he remarries, if it will make him happy.
I read it in one sitting. I will be buying another copy to gift to my mother, but I can't give her mine - it's tear-stained all to hell and I will read it again.
When my father died, I sought out books on mourning, grief, and death. I wish this book had existed then - it reflects how I felt so much better than anything else ever did. - I'll start off with saying that if you are a Christian with a captial "C", this book is 5 stars for you.
However, I'm not. I'm lightly christian nearly agnostic. I have cancer and thought this would be a great read for me to process my future with death and dying. However, I found it very hard to relate to the author. I admire her faith and that it gives her great strength and comfort, but it's not really my cup of tea. When you remove the religion aspect, the book doesn't quite stand on it's own. Perhaps that is because it she is so bound to her faith, which is good for her, but hard to related to.
If you have a terminal illness and are not Christian, this book is not for you. If you are Christian and have or don't have a terminal illness, you'd really like this book. - Wow! There is something tremendously powerful and refreshing about Kate Bowler's writing. She doesn't pretend that life is anything but complicated and messy, and she tells her story in a way that helps all of us see ourselves in it. The book is profound in its wisdom but also relatable and hilarious...I found myself often laughing and crying on the same page. As a working mom with young kids, I am especially grateful for Kate's honesty about parenthood and the deep hopes and fears that parents hold for their families and their futures, even as she navigated the absolutely unthinkable in her own life. And as a person of faith, I am so thankful that she is willing to ask hard questions and not be satisfied with easy answers. Such a needed message in a time when polarity and surety seem to be such easy and prevalent options. Definitely worth it to read and share!
- By some stroke of beautiful luck I was introduced to Kate and this book. This book stopped me in my fast tracks, prompted a much needed reflective pause and an urgent priority reset. You'll laugh, cry and fall in love with the author and her endearing family. You'll learn about living and loving life and others better through the best and worst of times. It breaks down what to (and not to) say and do to support loved ones going through terrible times. It's real talk but fills you with beauty, gratitude and grace. This book is an absolute gem.
- Bowler's book, is honest and raw. It is even better than watching an episode of This is Us it breaks your heart in the best way possible and it is so sincere. As a Christian who lost a friend at age 20, I struggled with the questions, "Why do bad things happen to good people?" Kate Bowler explores this problem without feeling the need to fix it, justify it, or even give a reason. She lands at the conclusion that life is beautiful, life is hard. This book is for those who have been told that their suffering is because of some cosmic conspiracy or because you didn't eat enough kale. Kate makes you feel less alone, and sometimes that is enough.
- Kate's voice is the perfect pairing of wisdom and wit. In a world where people feel like their need to respond overrides the need to be PRESENT, we find out how to truly be there for those going through the hardest of times. Here is an opportunity to walk with someone who's been through the valley and shared her own story of how to turn good intentions into being truly helpful– sometimes by saying nothing at all.
